Neil,

Thanks - read hope for the separated and DR.

Planning on further desengaging from my wife. She is doing her thing which is likely to mean we never again will achieve a married relationship and family unit. I have to accept that as the very likely outcome of this situation and get on with my life best i can. My aim, so far, has always been to restart the marriage but my aim has to be to sort myself out first.

I'm going mad constantly thinking of all the scnerarios which to be honest i can do nothing bout..

We still get on fine which i think makes it a lot more difficult.