WAW is full steam ahead

[sandi2]

Okay, here is my two cents worth again about going dark while in the same house. I think it is almost impossible when you have small children. In other words, when you are trying to go dark, it only comes across as you pouting or being sulled. Going dark, IMHO, only works well when you are living in separate houses or at least the kids are big enough to take care of themselves. How can you come together to eat at the same table, talk about the kids, and call yourself going dark?

The only way to "outshine the OP" is when you are applying the other DB principles living in the house with your spouse. I won't get into all of it again, b/c I think I've expounded on it before. I don't see going dark as a means to outshine the OP.

Now, I know you can detach emotionally from you spouse while living in the same house. But that is not the same as going dark.
Maybe I am the one that is not understanding the principle of going dark.....but to me, it means that you don't see them nor do you talk to them. How are you going to do that under the same roof?

"What surprised me was that she did not even check on the kids or stop in to kiss them good night. Don't understand that."

You and several others have said things like that many times and that is b/c you are still thinking that she should behave like the woman you married! Remember, she is not that woman now! She has only one thing on her mind primarily, and that is her happiness.....nobody else.....even her kids. It hurts to see them that way and I think men mentally chose to turn a blind eye to it b/c it does hurt them so much to see their W's act that coldly toward their own children that once they were so dedicated to.

Still having computer problems...ugh! So, I'll stop for now and hope to contact you soon.

Take care,
Sandi