I didn't say it WAS "emotional abuse"; I said I was afraid that a good attorney could try to make a CASE for it. I just don't like giving the other side ANY ammo with which to fight the betrayed spouse.
If you do have this "back channel" of communication to her, via your personal page, and you know she sees it and she doesn't KNOW that you know . . . hmmmm, you might be able to use that to your advantage.
Q for the group:
Is it "pursuing" if the other person doesn't know that you know that they're getting the message?
