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great GALing...really well done. its nice to do those things to keep up your PMA....i need to do more of things like that....its the comfort zone thing.....how do i go outside of my comfort zone? LOL.....


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yep- it just takes a little nudge and i have wanted to paint for a while so i finally just did it- sometimes i hate having so many plans too but i have to find a balance esp with all the extra time now \:\)
plus a lot of hikes with my girlfriends a vent session for both of us so thats nice too...


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so im having weird ideas here:
i realize that i had some changes to make- but my H's comments to me 1.5 weeks ago about all the changes he needs to make got me excited and now i am thinking, "yes, but can he make those changes"...its almost like i need to see if he can change too...i dont want the old R back and i am scared that things will fall back into place if we do work things out....he was pretty hard on me sometimes and picked at me a lot....i havent asked for what need yet- we arent at that point yet...and i guess im not sure if he can change...
im sure tis is normal to think but i am just frustrated right now


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just give him space...its a big step that he admitted he needs to work on himself to you. let him do it...give him the time and space to fix himself....then see what happens. That's my sitch....
it is normal to think that...i wonder if the new neil will like my W still.......i know i've got things to work on....and wonder.
that leads into my frustration tho...LOL...


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Originally Posted By: Neilh23
the fact that he said the grass isn't greener to another friend? that's HUGE.


I agree, this is showing ACTUAL REASONABLE THINKING, so rare in a WAS! \:\) With this realization alone, you are light years ahead of the game. Keep steady.


It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb

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thanks i almost- what a boost...he is thinking a bit more rationally now and i think that scares me too....he is now on a journey to discover his stuff...

and thanks Neil- its the old adage of PATIENCE is a virtue! our favorite topic...this is a journey and the best thing will happen...each day is a gift for us no matter if we are with them or not so we need to make the best of it...you guys make it easier to get through each day - thanks so much!


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well he just texted me to go to dinner tonight- its 7pm here and he wants to meet in about an hour- i already ate and i am taking the dog for a walk..ill reply to him after I get back from walking the dog- so this is good- he is thinking of me .... \:\)


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