Peace,

Got my bomb in September of 2006 with a failed suicide attempt on my ex's part.

She was never back in the house after that day.

She filed October 6th. Had already had a fling with a 22 year old (2 years older than our oldest son). Left that weekend for her first overnight with a childhood crush, 500 miles away.

Divorce final in December of 2006.

In May of 2007 she decided to move 500 miles away to live with her crush. She left behind a 20 year old in college and a 15 year old who lives with me. She's been there ever since, sees the boys maybe every couple months or so.

They've never married, but I did. In early 2007 I begin corresponding with Debra. In December of 2007, I asked her to marry me, and we were married just last month, June 28, 2008.

My ex has never looked back as far as I know. Things are amiable between us. Most of the hurt is long gone, and I have a great life to look forward to with Debra.


Sometimes they come back, sometimes they don't.

Making plans based on an MLC'er is not a wise course of action. While there are plenty of reconciliations you can read about, there are far more that end. How long you choose to "stand" is something YOU will figure out on your own. No one here, regardless of what they might say, knows any more about your life than you do, and none of them can tell you what to do.

We do everything we can to save the marriage. I think that's a common thread among most on this board. In the process we learn that the best way we can work to save our marriages is to save ourselves first.

That makes you a success no matter how things end up.


Blessings,

Bill


"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."