So I pulled into the strip center parking lot to go buy guitar strings when my ex pulls right up next to me. She must have seen me and raced over. She says that she had gotten my vehicle insurance cards in the mail and that this was going on and that was going on and was all smiles and jocular and chatty. WTF. I have no interest in being her buddy.
I know that to keep DBing means to keep and friendly relationship with her and hope she comes around. I’m not sure I can stomach that. I think what I really want is a clean break so that I can get over her. I don’t want my heart to pound out of my chest every time I run into her in a parking lot. To stand. Huh. I might as well. To detach. I’m trying. I’m terribly afraid that he two may be mutually exclusive.
one_light,
So, you play the guitar... I play the bass.....
I understand the whole seeing the ex thing.... Actually, I saw a gal who looked very much like my exW walking out of the Chick-fil-A near my house..... We used to go there all the time... She was about twenty yards away as she got into her car... She had the same hair style and color... She had the same jeans...... Same height... She just had a different vehicle.... She mentioned in an e-mail "another car".....
How did I feel? My new W asked, "Was your heart racing? Were you nervous?" I said no..... I really felt a strange sense of peace. I am not impacted by her aymore.....
I understand you not wanting to be her buddy. My exW wanted that at the beginning. I said you are my W or nothing. She took that as I did not care for her as a person.... She did not understand I valued her TOO MUCH to just be her friend....
The cool part of this is you have no commitment to her at all... I would just forget about her...... I would find some female friends to hang out with and possibly date..... If she wants to chase you around town... That is fine...... I would just politely tell her to get in line with all of the other gals....
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
