\ This might be why your H works so many hours. Is he a person that likes to please everybody.
His job is a family-owned business that he manages. So essentially he is self-employed. The long hours are the nature of, not only the type of business it is, but also his role in that business. But he does not manage his time well and admits this.
He says he is a people pleaser.. yet he does not, to me appear to do that for those he is close to, in fact in the past 5 years it appears to me that he has even actively (or passively) resisted doing things for the kids & I when we have asked. He says he tries to make everyone happy.. yet in doing so appears to make no one happy, including himself.
And he has admitted to being a work-aholic, yet does not seem to me, to be doing much about it. He has tried some things, but when push really comes to shove, the business takes priority, over the kids, over the R, over me, over his health, over friends.
I try to rationalize as "this is how he shows us he is a 'good dad/husband', by providing more"
but as I made the mistake of pointing out to him once... if you define being a good dad by only providing for them.. what kind of dad will you be once the kids are no longer dependant on you for the financial needs being met? He got very very angry.
Originally Posted By: distressed
Did you get the book "How to improve your relationship without talking". It goes into more detail about this. You would find it useful.
funny you should ask I was just on the Amazon website ordering that and Love without hurt.
I really appreciate the suggestions and encouragment.. thanks! Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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