Thanks Saffie-will look out for that . Its so difficult when I know everything I say will be thought about and analysed by him ,and we havent seen each other for 2 months. I am so nervous -its ridiculous when weve been married 28 years!Well, I still love him and will give it my very best divorce-busting shot.Being alone for a year has taught me a lot though- especially that I can live without him and be,if not happy ,content in a lonely way.