Jak, and Matilda, Thanks. It's hard for me to see the big picture. I'm glad that you think things are moving in a positive direction.
My W and I are both excited about the upcoming trip. I think it's going to be our best vacation ever, will create happy memories, provide needed rest, and be a catalyst for more positives.
I'm doing about 80% of the cooking these days. It may seem unfair, but it's less stressful for me, than having her in the kitchen being crabby. She acts as quality control, and packs the items for presentation. I don't mind the job. She says that if it weren't for me, she would have quit the job a long time ago.
The job is great money. It pays for our dance lessons, and other leisure activities.
She keeps talking about having a party, but wants to impose rules on me as far as what I can talk about. Last night, she said that I couldn't tell people we've been living there for 15 years. I get reactive when she makes comments like that.
Having a party with her it seems would create more distance and conflict, rather than create connection. It's one thing to give her space at a dance venue, so that she will be asked to dance, but another to downplay our R in our home. I'm not comfortable with her plan.
It seems to me that being M involves to some extent a public commitment. Maybe I'm not understanding where she's coming from.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
