I'm in month 2 of my WAS. My W found a OOG in the UK (we live in MI) so there was no PA...just an EA. I pray my W has the personal insight that you have shown through your postings.
Your earlier posts about the OM being an 'addiction' echo so strongly in my head. My W has said the same thing...and she still hasn't discontinued it with him. I think she may be getting the same 'counseling' from the OOG that you got from yours. And for the record, when she does end it and begins to grieve...I will be there for her. Regardless of the situation, I love her and it will hurt me to see her in such pain.
For now, I'm already a changed person. I didn't need a 2x4 upside the head, but maybe a 1x2 ;). I have begun to really listen to her and try to understand how she feels. I've come to appreciate even more the sacrifices she's made to stay home with the kids. I was always pretty involved in the kids lives, but now am more so. I routinely take the kids to my parents so they can get to know them better. As sad as I am and as much as I miss my wife, I'm going to be a better and happier person.
It is too early for her to feel any romantic love for me. She still loves me greatly, but not in "that" way. For now, that's okay. I will continue to work on me and provide her as much support as I can. She doesn't know where she's going to end up, but I love her enough that if she chooses to leave, I can accept it.
Throughout all of this, I remind myself that "Love is patient". I also remind myself that if I love something, I must be prepared to let it go.
M 37 W 35 S 5, D 3 M 15 yrs Bomb dropped 6/1/2008 My Sitch
