Ok, I see where you are coming from. Sick of the pain and hurt. But.......ok, looks like you want to pull back.....well, kind of (still made the lunch, etc.). I understand talking time is hard to come by but then maybe get the kids to a babysitter/relative and finally have a full talk. Have you ever really done that? Or, do you get bits and pieces? So many head games. I remember her saying to you once something like, "Is there something you want to SAY?" Avoidance doesn't solve anything. I don't mean to be harsh, I am just telling you what I see and trying to offer what could possibly be done. She has said she needs to leave the OM so there is no reason to leave the house. This "needing time to figure things out" thing is bogus and you know it. Maybe you want to just ignore it and hope she comes back? My H did this so that may work. But, it was 3 years later and the road is a steep uphill. I don't know...thinking out loud.....Just seems like there are so many head games around here.
Hi, WDID --
I'd love to get your opinion on this. When you drill down thru all the drama and the angst of this sitch, this just jumped out at me, above:
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When we do have a conversation, I always tell her to end things with him. To do the right thing. She will angrily agree, and tell me that she intends to. Like the last conversation, she said she just didn't know how to do it.
That is what she SAYS. Doing it is something entirely different. I have to realize that she has no intention to end it. I believe she just lies to me.
If this is the case, don't you think H4H should simply call her bluff, and insist upon a no-contact letter and a 100% no-contact/transparency system? If she refuses, then he'll know she is either lying or stalling and intending to cake-eat, and he'll have his answer.
