Trixi trying to find moorage

[Dom R]

We talked some R on the way to hiking; he said that maybe he never got to do what he needed to do before coming back to me and that is why he is thinking we should see each other less.

So.. he's saying that if he can somehow "get it out of his system", then it will be ok.

That implies that any time in the FUTURE he has some kind of various urges, it is ok for him to "go away" for a while, "get it out of his system", and then come back.

Are you willing to have a marriage based on that premise?

If not, sounds like you should tell him that. In very very direct and blunt terms.