I misspoke in my post to you regarding dating while M. My standards are my own - and I don't believe in imposing my standards on other people. It was wrong of me to impose them on you. Each individual has the right to make their own choices based on their own personal experiences and individual sense of morality. All that seems to matters in an R is that both parties have similar views.
Based on my reading of the posts on the BB, the social norm today seems to be that it is okay to date while M if (i) your spouse cheated on you first; and (ii) you no longer want to reconcile with your spouse. Furthermore, social norms indicate that it is okay to date even if you are in love with your spouse or ex-spouse.
Good luck with the progress with respect to your D and have fun re-entering the dating world.
