IMT,
Thanks for that advice, one of my closest friends said the same thing to me before about "H should be chasing me and begging for me back". I will not worry about us moving back in together anymore until I see more progress and until he seems to want it badly.

In the mean while, How do I get him to eventually want to beg me to move back in. I DONT KNOW???

I guess I have to keep up with what I have been doing (no nagging or questioning H, continue to GAL, & paving a safe path for him back home) and see if time will give me more prorgress.

This weekend I went away on the camping trip w/out H that i refered to in previous posts. I had a good time, but i missed him so very much and it just didnt feel the same as the last 12 years I have been there with him. He text me once the first night I was camping there and said he loves me very much.

On my way back home, I kept thinking how great it would be to see him at my place when I returned home. He agreed to take care of our pets while I was away so I also told him he can make himself at home. Much to my delighted surprise, he was there on the couch when I got back from the adirondaks. He was happy to see me & happy that I had a good time.

I was happy to see him be there, it feels more like I have a H when he is around the house and not out at the bars. H did go to the bars all weekend while I was gone though.

I have thought to myself many times that I must think of our M as just a dating relationship so that I dont get worn down with all the parts of having our M together that i miss so much. I need to be patient with my H as I have seen many good small baby steps in the right direction over the past month.

I have a goal (it used to be our Married goal together) to some day buy a house along the riverside in our town. We both talked many times about how happy that would make us. Now that my H has gone bankrupt and through a MLC he no longer is interested in that old mutual goal of ours. So I guess that is what I will work on and maybe someday I will be able to do it, and my H will maybe be begging to be part of the action someday. I know he still would love to do it, but he no longer has the means so he mocks it and puts the idea down now and has moved on to another idea of getting a camp an hour away. A camp would be great, but what about our near future and where are we going to LIVE, is what I think should be more important of a goal. I guess I just have to work for it on my own.
TIPPER