I think that your H's relationship with OW has a time bomb on it. I wonder how your STBXH will like the constant nagging, the desire for assurances, the endless suspiscion, the lack of trust.
It seems like they both have issues with infidelity.
I'm guessing what makes her attractive is her passion, wear-her-heart on her sleeve non-chalance, and her apparent lack of remorse or guilt. If were talking about the madonna/whore complex, she falls on the naughty side of the equation. In some sense what I admire about WAS is their fearlessness.
I think settling into domesticity will dampen the fires love and turn what was once a passionate affair into an infernal nighmare.
Heck -- you want a little fun, go-ahead. Wear lots of perfume, and lipstick. When he's heading off for the weekend with her, give him a hug and a small peck on the cheek, with some of you lipstick getting on his collar. As you do it tell him "You know, for our daughter's sake I want us to be friends, and I'm sure we'll both be OK once the divorce is final and I want nothing but your happiness." Or some such nonsense. It'll screw with his mind -- he'll be thinking of you while he's with her. And....she might smell the perfume and see the lipstick. Either way, the wonderful weekend will probably have some fly in the ointment.
Hehehehehe.
Only do this if you are 100% sure you are moving forward with the D. Then the screwing wih them will just be cherry on the ice-cream.
