There are people who have gone through divorce who go to Retrouvaille. Some judges require people to go to Retrouvaille before divorce (but don't count on being sent there).
It can be very difficult to get the spouse to go. Many are so determined to get divorced that they refuse to do something that might put a doubt in their minds. But it is a tragedy for the children when they won't consider making an effort.
Most couples walking in the door have one willing spouse and one not so willing spouse. But the program has a high success rate. It is not recommended when OP is involved. In some places they call people and ask both spouses if they will come with an open mind and a willing heart. That is all they ask.
