Liz, don't forget to breathe(sp?)as Woog says. It is obvious, at least to me, you are holding on to your M. It is obvious you are postponing things because you don't feel ready to move on. And of course you are, since you are here fighting for your marriage. Take your time. Just make sure whatever you do, doesn't hurt you even more. Prolonging a "sick" situation, IMO, decreases your chances to get your M back on track. I see you feel stuck, feeling if you got some "answers" from him you would be able to move on. It doesn't work this way, at least for me it didn't. The answers had to come from within. He never had any to beginn with. Your H is just as my STBXH. You can be smarter than I was.
Moving on with houses etc doesn't necessarily mean you give up on your marriage. What you have been doing so far, apparently it didn't work. Consider this as new approach and re read the book again. Have you thought of talking to a DB coach? It's worth to try, don't you think? I am here for you, as always K
