yeah i do see it...alot of it is my impatience.i sometimes doubt my ability to make these changes...like i'm afraid i'm going to fall back into my old habits...which i don't want to do...
no we don't have a date yet for the park outing. i thought about next weekend, but am unsure as to if that is too soon or not. The county fair is also in two weeks...thought about suggesting we take the kids to that too....
the weird thing is this is what the counselor told us the one and only time we went to marriage counseling. DOn't talk about the problems...focus on other things...which is what we've been doing..
i really like what 7 year itch said in one of their posts...."if you're not going to fight for us, please don't fight against us.."
things are slowly improving.....she still hits me every once in awhile with something about us not being together in the future..which hurts, but i don't react to it.
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
YOu are doing all you can and more- you are positive, forward thinking, solution-focused, giving her space, No R talk....that is HUGE! sometimes it is so hard and we think we can do more but the reality we have to just keep doing more of what works- sand we want it NOW! Maybe play it by ear and see where she stands on getting together- you can throw it out there later this week...think of her as a casual friend...she did ask you to do something so you can reply later or give her an idea...i wouldnt totally ignore her request though....sometimes that can be too removed. what do you think?
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
yeah, i've been thinking about it, since the kids are with me this weekend....almost as if i don't want to intrude on her "hands free time"...but on the other hand, she would probably love to see the kids...she hasn't gotten alot of QT with them lately...have had to share them with her parents the last couple of weekends when she's had them by herself. Not sure.
Defintily not going to ignore it. I want to take them with her. i'm just so concerned about overdoing it too fast, that i'm unsure of my actions.....
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
well- lets figure out a plan of action. what would be interested and casually friendly and reciprocating her invite without being overly desperate? ha ha - what a way to phrase that question.... any ideas on how you can approach her?
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
LOL...not sure. perhaps something along the lines of... "i've got nothing major planned this weekend...did you want to take them to the park this weekend?"
that's the ebst i could come up with right now.
or i could let her initiate it. i don't want to jump at it too soon...........
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
"i've got nothing major planned this weekend...did you want to take them to the park this weekend?"
I would probably go with something like "Hey, me and the kids were going to go to the park Saturday morning, if you would like you can come along and hang out, they really have a great time there."
Saying you have nothing major planned doesn't sound good. Does your W typically take them to the park? or is this pretty much a "Daddy" activity?
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
good point. the park thing is new......she and inlaws took them this past saturday....W said they had a blast. I've never taken them to this park....more like a mini carnival thats open all summer.
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
Even better, be sure to bring a fist full of dollars and work on your "carnival games" in an effort to drop $100 to win a $5 stuffed animal for your D's.......lol (all too familiar to me)
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
doubting myself again today........ugh. I really have no reason to either. I think i'm focusing too much on the negative things she's said......
man, why do i suck at this? like i said, i have no reason not to believe that things will be fine...they've been steadily improving for the last 2 weeks.....i think its the impatience thing.....i just miss HER. Her smell. Her skin. HER next to me in bed. i'm afraid i won't get those things back....
ugh.
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
