puppy- what sort of intel do you think would be helpful in busting up the affair?
Anything that Purr can use to look his wife straight in the eyes when she says "He's just a friend," and say "STOP IT. We both know you're lying right now, and it's incredibly disrespectful. You are having an affair with this man, and I cannot live in an open marriage. Whatever it is you want to do with our marriage, I will not tolerate you lying to me or our families about this any longer."
E-mails, text messages are the least expensive intel; a good private investigator of course is the best, but can be quite expensive. I was fortunate in that I had a kind soul from the Marriage Builders site offer to follow my wife and OM for gas expenses only, in a "pay it forward" gesture, and she was very helpful in confirming the hook-ups.
