Hi SC thanks for the support and word of encouragement. Maybe I'm pinning too much on our inability to communicate effectively. Maybe my C & I have me convinced of working on the wrong thing.
My logic has been how can we work on the marriage foundation (as who we both are now) until the negative emotions are really dealt with, and how can we deal with the negative emotions until there is better communication?
He has not gone back to counseling at all since Oct. one phone call consult supposedly right before xmas when we had a huge blowup. The tools he has for anger management issues are still what they were then. Ugg.. I still can't make him do that. I have told him I was still going and I would like him to return to IC as well.
the MC asked last week if he was regularly seeing someone.. he said no, the counselor had that 'mmmm.. i see" look and tone of voice. You'd think he'd get it.. but there in lies the difficulty, he just doesn't!! Or if he does he just doesn't want to act on it. Either way I can not change that. I just need serenity to accept it...
OK.. I need to get busy on my schoolwork.. last week of class, but LOTS of grading of course to stay current on.
Peace & serenity to all.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
