Feeling Hopeless...

[Dom R]

Sigh.. another mini-post.. another one coming later.. stay tuned.. :-)

Friday-
i had a dr. appt and stuff during the day, but i figured that Friday night, after the girls went to bed, would be a good time to talk to him.
.... Apparently, i had an attitude (i don't recall that, but he said so) and he got mad. He got quiet and wouldn't talk to me. Everything he said, he yelled.

He stopped by fast food and ordered something for the girls. he asked what i wanted and i told him i didn't want anything. that made him mad too.

and now for the meat of this post.
Sounds like you need a little "Male translator" help.

We're generally pretty dense about female moods... but sometimes, even we can tell "something's up"
He somehow could tell you were gearing up to something.

It's really, REALLY important that you understand this aspect of him. Because ONE of you has to... otherwise, this sort of thing will keep reoccuring.. and HE's not likely to get struck by the lightning bolt of revelation

guys want to "fix things".
he could tell "something's wrong".
When something's wrong, a guy wants to FIX IT!
You not talking, made him unable to fix it.

You saying you "didnt want anything", translated in his mind, that, "something's REAAALLY wrong... but you wont talk about it. ".

Which, to the average guys' mind, kinda registers like, "well, there's this great big bubbling water heater, that's at max pressure,boiling at around 200 degrees, it's going to blow up... and I have no idea where the pressure release valve is, or what else to do."

he really really wanted to fix it. but he didnt know how to.
When confronted with this sort of situation, guys tend to do one of two things:

a) pound it with a sledgehammer (metaphorically speaking), or
b) run away and hide [either to avoid admitting failure of "i cant fix it", or just to avoid an "explosion"]

Anyways, we went home, he went inside and shut himself into his office, then spent the rest of the night in our bedroom (he even ate in there).

Guess what he did?

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PS: alternative theory:
while everything I said can be true of a male in general.... it is also worth considering that your gearing up to talk, made you tight-lipped and snippy... which really could simply be taken as having "a [hostile] attitude".

SO.. there's a grain of salt for ya