Feeling Hopeless...

[ann25]

Wow ann I just spent close to 3 hours reading this entire thread

WOW... thank you

I know it has for me, when my wife moved out and said she wanted a divorce, I wanted nothing more than to work on the R/M more passionately than I ever have wanted anything before in the past.

i'm sooo hoping it doesn't come to that.

I understood what dom is trying to say also about how your little girl's will be worse off post-divorce, yes he may not be treating them very well at all right now, but going through a divorce will throw a lot more "scary" people at them that you cant protect them from who just want to divy them up like they're nothing more than good china. So still think seriously about whether, even though they are being treated bad, that putting them through that wouldnt be worse and would last a hell of a lot longer(their whole lives)

I get that too. i guess for me, i have to determine what level of emotional abuse i'm willing to let mey girls suffer through. For me, if he was physically abusive to me or them, i'd be gone already. There would be no working on it, i'd be gone. To me, while emotional abuse is not the same, it still hurts and leaves people (especially young children) scarred. If it were just me, i'd probably just deal with it, but it's not just me.

I know I may not be providing much help but I hope that at least I could help in someway.

you've been helpful. Even if you have not advice and simply stop by to say hi, it's encouraging and that is helpful!! Thanks!

God does love you and wants nothing more than to keep your family together, but your the one who has to do all the work. Good luck

I know that God doesn't want to see my family fall apart, i remind myself of that as i sit in church every week alone. Maybe one of these days i can get him to actually come with me when he says he will...