Would really like WAW your opinion

[Neilh23]

SC--- i understand that. My W always spoke up about stuff...but did it meekly. Sometimes, us DAM's need to have a 2x4 swung at us once to get us to understand. I guess it didn't come off as i meant it. Alot of it is communication....

in my sitch, i never intentionally tried to control anything. We always talked about stuff, when it came to money. She started to feel like she had to call me when she purchased stuff....and i was always like...why are you calling me? just buy it. however, there were times when she'd want some appliance and i wouldn't see the need for it, and said so. she thought i was controlling because of those types of behaviors and from the emotional standpoint....it's pretty deep stuff. it took me awhile to see it... but once i did...ugh.

sorry if i didn't explain my meaning correctly....i can see how it would be misinterpreted. apologies........

EH-
just take the class. if your W knows, great. if she doesn't, she'll pick up on it through your actions...just like cookie said.