1. Buy AND READ Divorce Remedy AND for you I would also suggest Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw.
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over. She has lost hope, YOU have to find it for her and be hopeful for BOTH of you. Think about it as her being sick and you having to do 100% of the housework and child care until she gets better.
3. Never mind all the legal stuff, this is just an emotional wall she's putting up to dig her heels in and demonstrate to the OM that she's not having second thoughts. This is her attempting to protect herself from doubt!
4. Stop focusing on her and do everything you can to out-mature the OM. Show her that the OM is a child in comparison to what you care capable of.
5. Checklists aren't going to get you through this, you need to understand it. Those books will get you there, this won't happen overnight. So get to work!
