[My H sees his affair was wrong, but in his eyes, still totally justifiable because I was failing our marriage. He still sees NO fault in what led us to being vulnerable to affairs in the first place. If he *is* truly sorry, he hasn't ever told me.
I think my H thinks he was justified b/c of my depression or has been thinking but like that, but I was pretty shocked when this weekend he seemed to be upset, sorry, and apologized for messing up my life. That was the 1st time in 8 months he expressed that. I can't believe he hasn't thought that before, maybe it takes a lot of guts to admit you're at fault or wrong about stuff esp. for our WAS? Anyway, I do believe that your H Kat (and most of the others) either already feel that way or will at some point. Karen
