I think I would benefit from a little advice at this point after yesterday's events.
H started called S16 & me early yesterday wanting to have my nephew, S, or one of S5's schoolmates join them for the day. I didn't respond to VM, wanted him to feel the effects of his choices.
When I did call to find ETA of S5, he answered the phone extra friendly, but wanted to know everyone's where-abouts & reasons why they didn't join them for the day. I just responded with a short "they had other plans", which didn't have warm response. Why does he want to be with my friends & family so much?
At the drop off, I'm once again friendly enough, but detached, & walk straight to the door. He then tells me he's found a place to rent in the neighborhood, the lease will be available to sign next week.
I said, Okay, I don't know how we got here, but I guess this is where we are just the same & started walking towards the door. He says "I don't either."
Out comes the bar stool, & him asking what I thought about that.
I said my thoughts hadn't changed....it's a little too close, I don't care to have his affair in my area & it tells me we're ramping thing's up. Do what you want to do though, & I'll have the offer checked out by my L.
He lets me know that he doesn't want to have any interaction with "Boat Guy" either.
After saying that he doesn't know any other options, he can't keep living in our little cottage any longer (14 months), he wants to know if I can see any.
After a long pause, I said, "You could end your affair, have your S, your wife, & your house."
He tells me he's going on a trip Thursday-Sunday. I wonder what the connection is & ask if he's going alone.
He says, Yes, not that he has to answer that though. "Well, no, you really don't. If you are though, then I will proceed & file myself."
His eyes got teary, got up, joked around w/S5 ("Your mom thinks I do stupid thing's sometimes." with a big smile at me), turned around & left.
So, at this point, I think that he would continue to lead his double life indefinitely. I know that I have to follow thru if he elects to move his affair over here, or goes on another vacation together.
I have a feeling that I'm now following a script of my own & might not be looking at this with the clearest mind.
