Meeting WAS for first time. Any advice?

[christarn]

Hi Max...sorry you are "here" but welcome. I am a WAW, who is trying to work out my sitch...so I will just give you my perspective. I didn't have OM....so that is one BIG difference in our sitchs...keep that in mind, because it factors in.

I would 100% meet somewhere mutual...barnes and noble or starbucks would be a good place. It works two fold, you won't be able to get "loud", and it is not an "emotional" place...thus keeping "drama" to a minimum....she will not want drama...you do not need drama...positives for both of you.

DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT talk about the R or M or hopes/dreams of it working out...how do I know this...read my thread...I have made oh so many mistakes and set myself back one too many times by doing this....please learn from my mistakes.

She thinks the grass will be greener on the other side...plant the seeds...lots of them...so she will see...there is just more to mow!

I learned...I learned the hard way.

Stay calm, for every action there is a reaction...keep your reactions calm, and cool....if the conversation starts to go somewhere you are not prepared for, have an "out"...before you even start talking...have your out planned...conversation starts to go south...you are prepared.

take care, good luck...this...this place is a hard place to be...take care of yourself.

(((max))...that's a virtual hug!!
christarn