Originally Posted By: Donna...Found
I was with my mother through her cancer and decline. We also used hospice, but it was free (they coordinated with her insurance, and didn't charge the co-pays). Not sure how it works in FL. They were outstanding.
One of the things that I respected mom for, was she asked all her friends and family to visit her while she was alive--come and spend a couple of days, talk about old times, laugh, etc.
She said, what use is it to come after I am gone? She didn't want a service at all, shopped around for the lowest prices on everything (I think she even found some weird coupon for the cremation!).
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


Hi Donna,
I have a very good friend that had open heart surgery a few years ago and she asked me to help her plan her funeral. Fortunately, she's still alive and well but we sure had a blast planning her demise. So many peeps wanted some of her ashes that I suggestsed we start decorating baby food jars and after she was gone, I'd divide her up and pass the jars along to her loved ones. I have little scraps of paper stashed away of things she wants me to say at her funeral, etc. The only thing we haven't done is pick out her outfit for the viewing and I keep nagging her to go shopping!!!!

Seriously, I know it sounds morbid but humor is how she best deals with things.

I told my mom that she needed to keep my Dad engaged as much as possible as he perks up whenever there's people around. So she's still inviting people over for dessert, etc.

She's also started going to the bedroom whenever he decides to take a nap (which is often) and talks to him about fun things they've done together, trips they've taken, etc.

Your Mom sounds like she was a wonderful person and had a great attitude. I'm sure you must miss her very much.