Meeting WAS for first time. Any advice?

[MaxP]

Hi,

My WAW and I have finally got to the point where we are both in sync about being 'ok' about meeting up. We separated a year ago and had only 4, what felt like pretty poor meetings after separating. At the last of these, she declared our R was over as 'it no longer felt right' to her. That was 8 months ago and we haven't met since that night. At various times I have rejected meeting when see has asked - too angry about learning of the probable OM - and at other times she had pushed any proposed meeting back, but never rejected the idea outright.

We are on the verge of sorting out the last of the financial issues (the house), but cannot start divorce proceedings for another year. All our interactions have been remarkably fine since the split and sorting things out has gone very smoothly. That's I guess because we've both worked hard not to direct any strong emotions at each other. Communication has been mainly via email, but the frequency of that has now dropped away significantly.

So, that's the background.

Now that we have agreed to meet, I wondered how to best to handle things. Somewhere neutral I guess. She said meeting at our house would be too 'uncomfortable' - which was a relief as that is what she kept arranging during our separation which I hated. I think there was probably always the thought of the OM in the picture for her. I presume she is with someone, but don't really know as I know very little about her life now.

I've always felt that it would be sensless to spend 10 years of your life with someone and then let that go completely (however tempting). So, it would be good to see if there is the basis for a friendship there at least. I have no idea about anything else. I also have little idea how I might react to her. I feel that there are still some emotions lurking below the surface for me, but I don't know how they breakdown. I'm slightly scared of how I might react to the situation. I guess she will be too. I always felt she never once gave me a chance after the bomb and that hurt.

Thanks for listening.

Max