Quoting :So, what's the deal with packing??? You say you want your R to work more than anything and yet you're packing??? Giving ultimatums. Withhold your own emotions until they're just as powerful a bomb as anything I could drop???
Once again, maybe too simplistic, but what if this could be attributed to the basic human "Fight, or Flight" instinct?
Most couples don't have any good "ground-rules" set up on exactly how to "fight". Doesn't feel safe for either of them. Things either get held in check to prevent causing hurt, or get blown out of proportion. If they do get held in too long, when it finally comes out, it can be like a volcano erupting.
If it's not safe to "fight", the most attractive option is "flight". Whether it be physically, mentally, or emotionally.
How many of us here have set up some "fight rules"? Ways for both partners to feel "safe"?
Just food for thought!
JJ
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