Catchy title huh?
I never understood the reason a thread locked ... maybe you could enlighten me SG. Seeing as you are a moderator. ;\)
I was going to title my thread. " I believe in Miracles " but then that disco song kept playing in my head.
So I changed it.

Is sex the magic pill that makes your relationship perfect?
NO~
I know it is not but at the same time it is medicine for the soul of the relationship. It heals all ailments like no other pill could. It fills the heart. it takes away headaches. It can cure depression if done correctly.
My H came to bed the other nite and I had just fallen asleep and he wanted some luvin...
I told him I was real tired. First time in awhile and I meant it from my heart. I was too tired to give any real effort not b/c he didnt turn me on. I explained I was " in the mood" earlier and he was in a mood and whats more he had company. He said well you can still come up to me.

I replied.. " I know I can but not when you are in a mood like that, and hey I know you are human baby, but when you are like that I steer clear and it kills the mood for me."
I added..
" I LOVE YOU BABY... and I love to make love to you but I am just exhausted. You know I am sick honey."

* ( I have Anemia and it makes me real tired and even still , I do my best to be at top speed*)

"You mean so much to me , dont get upset." and I kissed him~
He took over and did the work and we ended up making love.

Different interaction on both our parts.. \:\)

I * in the past*
would have gotten bitchy and told him to stop it.... I was tired and brought up everything but the kitchen sink.

He * in the past*
would have gotten mad said a lot of choice things to me.

We would have gone to bed mad, laying next to eachother but worlds apart.
Or I would have made love to him or him to me and I would have been angry and that filters thru.

So no my R is not perfect noones can be... but this is like a dream.

He chooses to listen and I listen and we communicate and we know we are both trying our best.

It took a lot of hard work to get here.
Alot, we used to interact from..
me?
resentment, anger .. then for me trying toooooooo hard and then everything I did seemed "plastic"~
hubby?
sheer resenment with a dash of " she is doing this to please me not b/c it pleases her"

I finally got thru to him that it pleases me to make love to him.

And so is sex a Miracle close to it.
The sad part is noone knows this secret. Well next to noone it seems. I almost lost my H cause zi didnt get it.
he tried to explain it to me.. standing up, on his head and even sideways it just didnt click and when it finally did it was sheer amazement on my part.

I went thru years of absolute pain and agony and who knows what my Hubby really felt like ?

I can only speculate?

A Family almost wasnt because we were laying in bed together and he could have been In Russia and me here and we wouldnt have noticed the difference.
So tome sex is a Miracle and one I am still trying to understand and trying to explore. It is so much more than two bodies connecting. It is sheer bliss and a connection so beautiful. Words cant even come close to describe what it feels like.
It feels like I have waited forever for him to BE~ this Man.
He does for me just what I need and just what I want.
The more secure he is the more he turns me on, the more he protects me the more he turns me on. the more he sets me free the more he turns me on. The stronger he is the more vulnerable he is. When he makes me feel safe in his arms like no harm can ever come upon me. When I know he is the last person that would hurt me, when he sees my vulnerabilties and he loves me still. When he holds my heart in his hands and he is gentle with it. When he loves me like a real Man and I am the only one and he holds me in a place higher than himself. When he spills all of his heart into my hands without regret and he makes love to me with an abandon that can only be felt between a MARRIED COUPLE.
Then I feel like a Real Woman. I feel sensual enough to give back the gifts he is giving me. Not a tit for a tat. But this sensual flow of give and take when you respect and love another almost more than you love yourself....
I dunno if all Women are the same , I speculate the "recipe" will be different for everyone.

I used to be so afraid to give my H this gift and now that I have given " it " to him without fear ... I can see and feel that he is the Man... the Real man this Real Woman was waiting for ....
"it"
Is everything that I am and it cant even be called sex anymore it surpasses that every now and again. It is a blessing from God.

Thank God for this place and the beautiful people that are in this online community.
You have helped me find myself and hepled me to work hard and get out of my comfort zone and change. And to recapture the sexual Diva I once was and actually surpass who I have ever been.
God bless you all..
~Ali