No gift. He is glad to be "rid of you," right? Let him see what that really means. And the next time he complains about the dogs chewing stuff up, remind him that you won't be here in a few weeks to babysit them--he better get used to dealing with the dogs himself, now.
I just read your thread--I am SO glad to hear you are going to AlAnon. Keep going! Go more than once a week, to more than one meeting place and time, if you have to. You are doing the right thing, and will get stronger every day.
Portland sounds exciting! Can you spend the occasional night away from the house until you are out of there? Last-minute trip with friends? A hotel?
Your parents--well, you lived with them for a lot longer than you did h, and survived it. You may just want to set up some clear boundaries, on both sides, for while you are staying there, to avoid unmet expectations or misunderstandings.
Leave the financial stuff up to the Ls. If he brings it up again, simply ask him to forward any of his concerns to your L--stop him berating you or pressuring you to pay for anything else. Blame the L--tell him that you have been advised to no longer discuss these issues with him. Peace of mind sometimes comes with a price tag.
