My 2 cents. Want to know what are the 3 most important things that my unfaithful W could give me that would most improve our R now?
1. Reassurance, that she wants to stay married to me and is willing to work on the R. 2. Reassurance, that she loves me. 3. Reassurance, that she will never contact the OG again.
Oh, and if that doesn't work, try some REASSURANCE.
OK, maybe I'm overdoing it. The point is that the feelings of insecurity and mistrust are so overwhelming sometimes, that all I want is to feel safe again, to have some peace, and confidence in the future. I'd bet the way I feel is not so different from how the spouse of a WAW feels. The best gift that my W could provide through both her words and her actions is continual reassurance. If you think you're overdoing it on reassurance, you're not.
