Still having computer problems. Just over at the kid's now so I can drop in and see how you are doing.
I would not bring up about anything concerning OW. I have to admit that I wondered why she was having her "friend" over so much, but thought perhaps it was maybe just support. I know of a couple where the W actually let another younger woman move in with her and her H and they (the wife and OW) slept together while the H slept in his own room. So, don't let it get that far. I have even wondered if that is why she is checking in on you in your bedroom when she does or wants to know you plans in details, so she can plan around it and not get caught with OW. However, I still would not talk R even about OW b/c it would end badly (I think). If she is experimenting.....then just try to outshine the OP whether it is a man or woman. I hope it is neither, but if she is going through some kind of crisis, then it could be.
I believe you should protect yourself financially. If she gets mad....so be it. I do not believe you should help her get her own place or support her in order for her to have a living place of her own. I think I have given my reasons before for that. That was the main reason I could not move out of the house and leave my H was due to the fact I could not support myself. I was forced to either move in with my mother or stay with him. So, I stayed, and in time, then things started improving. So, I don't go along with H's supporting their W's in living apart from them.
I have to go. Sure hope I get my computer fixed soon. I miss talking to all of you.
Take care. Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
