Hey Y'all, it's been so long my last thread is way down on the next page!

Anyway... I'm not ready to do a huge situational re-cap, but real quickly...

I'm a WAW working on staying. Things with H got WAY WAY WAY out of hand... disconnected... each of us filled to the brim with resentment... In January, I dropped a bomb on H that I didn't want to be with him anymore. H tried everything to turn me around but the thing that actually worked was knowing I hadn't really tried to get the love I want out of this M. That H didn't KNOW everything could really ever come crashing down and now that he knows, to give him some time to "do something with the information."

Which leads me to the title of this post...

As H, the potential LBS, avoids R talk like a plague, focuses on what works, works on himself, participates and is engaged in our home and the nuts & bolts of raising kids... there is work I have yet to do.

I have to come to terms with this. As one friend put it...

"... sometimes when we are really angry we don't want to be touched, by photo's, hot tubs or the moon. And that's fair enough, he bled you emotionally until you were dry and you need time to regroup."

I've been trying to regroup. I'm just so busy... advice anyone???