If that behaviour was not so tragic it would almost be funny. he still wants control and it comes from insecurity . If your H was 100% happy about what he was doing and the path he was on why does he need to check up on you ? I sometimes think that we (the LBS's) are still that safety net and they want to think that there is a chance they can come back if they get it all wrong. I know thats a role I have carried for long enough . My W has always had me to pick up the pieces , when she has crashed the car, broken bones , her first A etc . who was there to help her through?
I am kind of thinking along what Gypsy has said . perhaps not as drastic as changing locks , but I would be stating that he should not be in your house while you are not there.
