Quoting erinr: KAW, why are men so thick? I find it incredibly annoying that most men have no grasp of subtelty. You all have to be knocked across the head with a concept in order to understand!
Well to speak for myself ... its just the way I'm wired ... with a couple of them crossed which causes a few shorts! Seriously ... I felt I was so firmly ground in my sense of reality to consider her perspective as being valid. I literally became to complacent in my own little world to want to change anything. Its amazing how strong one's ability to maintain a perspective can even fool oneself. I felt so strongly content that it blinded me to how misible I really was.
However, I'm now going to stick my neck on the chopping block for you gals, as my W is demonstrating this is not just a male thing to get lost in one's own little world ... as my W has convinced herself that despite all the changes I have made, she will never be happy in M and her only chance at a fleeting glimpse of happiness in her future is to chase a fantasy and is weighing whether or not its worth risking all she has now to pursue it...
... its just the way I'm wired ... with a couple of them crossed which causes a few shorts! 
Seriously ... I felt I was so firmly ground in my sense of reality to consider her perspective as being valid. I literally became to complacent in my own little world to want to change anything. Its amazing how strong one's ability to maintain a perspective can even fool oneself. I felt so strongly content that it blinded me to how misible I really was. 
