He doesn't see me as holding up well. He told my mom that I have been emotionally unstable for a year now and all I ever do is cry. He sees himself as the victim in this mess.
Hon...just because he says it doesn't mean he believes it. He has to preserve his "dignity"...how could he have a convo with your mom who probably knows it all and come out feeling okay? He knows he's being a douchebag. He really does...but he pushes it down and tries to find evidence that he's really a victim, he's the good guy, right one in the situation.
One of the best things I learned through this process is that just because someone else says/thinks something doesn't make it true.
So glad you are making your home your own. Decorating is fun! My H is gone for the weekend with his dad, and I am doing the same.
BTW, you may want to contact your alarm company to let them know the situation before you go on vacation. I wouldn't put it past his cuckoo little brain to do something like that.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
