well, our talk didn't go quite as I imagined but I'm ok with how it did go.

The long and short of it is that he isn't moving out right away but on the condition that he starts to see a therapist of some sort within the next week or two max. If I don't see him making any moves in that direction, the decision is out of his hands and the kids and I are leaving.

It felt so harsh to say that because I know it hurt him beyond belief, but he needed a pretty hard kick in the pants. This was actually a pretty big 180 for me so lets sit back and see how it plays out.

He also knows that in the eventual, we will start to see a mc, too. Given, of course, that in all his soul-searching he decides to stay, but I truly believe he will.

I also told him that even if he doesn't move out, I think that he needs to get away by himself for awhile. I told him to rent a condo in florida or somewhere else for a week or two and just think, sit by the beach, whatever, but get away from the stress of us, the kids, work. He seemed to like that idea and hopefully he will take it. I really think that he needs some alone time.

At one point he told me he didn't think he could leave the kids ever and I said that while he may be willing to live with someone he didn't love, I wasn't. I also said that we both deserved more than that. At that point he said I deserved someone better and I replied that I deserved a better and happier H. I said I didn't want someone else, I wanted him, but I wanted him whole and happy.

I hope some of this got through to him. I have drawn a line in the sand and I'm gonna have to stick with it. I hope he doesn't make me have to show him the consequences of inaction. I wish he didn't feel/see shame in needing and asking for help. That would make this so much easier. I just don't see another way at this point. He's not working through his issues on his own, so he needs someone else to help him. At least someone that will ask the right questions to get him thinking.

Did I do the right thing? Only time will tell.

"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing." -George Bernard Shaw