Back in a rut again!

[sage]

Erin -- I'm sorry that you find yourself back on the boards and that you and h are still struggling.

I think this is the right decision. For the last 8 months I have done everything I know how. I have db'd my ass off, read everything I could get my hands on, went to see a MC without him since he refused to go, gave him his space and tried to make life as pleasant as possible. I have required nothing of him and that's the problem. In the last few weeks, I have told him the things that I need to feel better and to feel loved.

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Now, I want him to go. I need some space from him too. This has been way too stressful. Part of our discussion tonight will be making him understand that in order to come home, that is going to require us going to some MC and maybe some personal therapy for himself. I need to see HIM make some effort to make this marriage work.

What you've written here seems so wise and strong. I can see the fruits of the DB labor! I hope that you and h. come to a place that feels right to both of you....

Why not join us on a more regular basis? Even if we can help you out, I KNOW that you could give us or some newcomers some great advice.....

Good luck tonight.
Sage