self doubt and impatience are the two biggest things i need to work on for me... the weird thing is that i think these two things only apply to this area of my life...LOL
i also need to rid myself of self-centeredness.....to some degree. I think that letter demonstrated alot more of it than i think i intended it to. I believe that's what Forrest meant...
twindad, you're right. as always :-). She is driving the R and it is all about her right now. and i do have to practice what i preach...thanks kptch.
Yep, my H too. Insecurity & patience ! He wanted to fix things NOW. He was changing, he felt it, he wanted me to know it within months. He wasn't done changing. S 12 just told me that it's been a gradual step by step change with H. Not overnight. You have no idea what's ahead of you, how much more you'll change in the next year.
The letter is awesome. FOR YOU ! Keep it to yourself. Don't send it yet. If H would have sent that to me 10 months ago, I couldn't have cared less. Now, OMgosh, it would touch my heart so much, but that's because my heart isn't behind the 5 foot thick solid cement, reinforced with steel, wall.
The book, Good Marriage Great Husband teaches you how to completely focus on her & her happiness. For WHEN she comes around. Not IF. We're thinking positive here !
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M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
