Enough to be devastated. I avoided asking too many details about the PA part, but ran across his stupid romantic musings about her - that was worse, I think. I think I really don't want to have too vivid a picture in my mind, luckily I never met the OW (although I did find her picture on his laptop). H has been so good and loving that all of that has really faded a lot for me in the last 2-3 months.
Sat. nite we were watching a video, "Phone Booth", with the kids - I didn't realize when we rented it that the guy trapped in the phone booth by the sniper was being punished for an affair! Still, somewhere during the evening, H volunteered the info that he hasn't heard a peep from the OW since last spring. Felt good to hear since I don't want to be asking all the time (and I don't) but with it being the anniversary of the bomb, it has been on my mind whether she would call him.
Good job simply being straightforward with him about your worries.
