H starts saying the reason we are splitting up is down to things like my appearance - all the reasons he gave me for being unhappy before he told me he had been unfaithful to me for most of our marriage.
Let me state one thing for the record here - now I am a size uk 8 (us 6 I think) and before I lost weight due to stress I was a 12 (10). I wear make-up most days, I am the best dressed full-time mum on our estate, I'm not ugly. He basically wants some tiny, silicone enhanced, adoring 18 year old.
If you are keeping his 20+ affairs secret from your family and his, I really hope that this is NOT the reason he is giving people for your split, correct? I hope that you guys will come up with something that at least alludes to the truth that doesn't hurt your family or EITHER of you.
HE has issues, serious ones, of what look like sex addiction and control, probably related to his childhood sexual abuse. All of that is part of the truth, your appearance (which sounds quite nice) is not.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
