Hey mockers- thanks for the post too!
i think I would never had said some of this stuff a few months back. I am just getting to where I know it is OK and we are more of a team. Give it time.

OP is supposed to be gone-he has spoken to her 3 times this year- still working on trust and I guess he speaks the truth.

Found out my dad has early stages of prostate cancer- hurts to even write it- he is usually so healthy. I think the doctor is very optimistic about it being very early. H has been great and supportive. Found out last night. Feeling very unsettled worried and even calm at times.

Peace to everyone on Thanksgiving! I too dont get much computer time!! But I think about you all every day,

Shay