I would suggest looking at the technique in the book that talks about cutting off contact w/spouse until OW is gone. If he wants D, he needs sense of what this is like. Be friendly but not available.

If he missed you once, he may miss you again.

Lay low and be dim.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D