I had the same problem, although my husband did not act violent with me. But I know from my experience that when your marriage gets that bad, you can't just fix it yourself. You need professional help. For us, the weekend at Retrouvaille taught us to to deal with each other. Perhaps marital counseling will work for you. But you have a very sick patient there, and it is time to get serious help. Someone needs to set the rules of behavior. Someone has to help each of you understand the other. If you do not get help, you will continue to argue with each other and make things worse. You have to learn how to stop the arguments and begin effective communication.
If you could do it yourself you would have done it already. You are caught in a vicious circle. And if your husband would lay a hand on you then you have a very serious problem there.
