H called last night and denied what I had brought up in the email. I then asked him flat out if he'd had ANY contact with OW in the past few weeks and he said NO. I told him that he's being dishonest and that we cannot repair our M until the lieing stops. I kept repeating this and he kept denying contact with her. I finally told him that I had seen the cell phone bill (which is addressed to me) and that there were calls to her and from her. He said nothing for the longest time and then finally said that the calls were about "business". I told him I didn't believe him and that I obviously couldn't trust him to tell me the truth. He said that he meant everything he wrote in the emails to me. I repeated that there is NO use talking about the M until ALL contact with OW stops and until he can be honest with me and that I won't accept anything less. He accused me of giving up on him when he is in so much pain and giving up on the M and I pointed out that he was the one who decided to abandon the M. He said that if he had given up he would have filed for D by now and he hasn't done that. He asked me what I need him to do and I told him he needs to get IC to address his dissatisfaction with everything in his life, he needs to stop any contact with OW and I need HONESTY from him. He said a part of him still loves me very much and that the other part hates himself for hurting me. I was firm but didn't raise my voice throughout the convo.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
