A, Your h is all into himself these days. He wanted you to know about his health issues. He wanted sympathy from you about his latest issue w/his tooth. Sounds like the stressors in his life are rearing their ugly heads. They all go through this "poor me" stage. Listen, validate and just let it go. They have to figure it out for themselves.
As for you, enjoy your time w/your granddaughter. Yes, the 17th is around the corner, but everything will fall into place. You will need to try to keep your emotions in check a bit when you do meet. Emotions tends to make a mess of things when it comes to separating the finances, etc.
Try to enjoy your day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
