What are some warning signs that things are not working out during the counseling? What should I do if things turn sour?
If you feel both of you blaming each other and yelling at each other during counseling, and the counselor is either encouraging this kind of behavior or just sitting by, letting it happen and then passively discussing feelings without trying to instill positive feelings or set up some positive new experiences for you, then get out.
Do either of you have insurance? Insurance covers some counseling.