I dont think that they know how much pain they will cause. They separate their morality and their lust from eachother to protect their fragile egos from reality. I cant even really be honest in telling you that someday he will see, because Im not sure that I believe that myself.
But I do know that you only get one chance at a second chance, and if you want this marriage you should do all you can to protect it. You wont get another chance at this, you wont ever be able to get what you have with this man with another (home with the father of your kids), and such. You are the only one who can decide if its worth the pain,time, work and stress(and wrinkles!). If you decide that its not worth it, I think that you would do best to tell him exactly why, and do it soon. Have you been to C? That might help you a little, but I really think that you have just a little RAGE that has to be dealt with before your M has any chance. I dont know what else to say girl, I wish I could give you a hug.
((((Water))))
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
